Thought Ponderings.

"Everything happens for a reason..."

Or does it? I've been contemplating this statement the past couple of days. Why? I thought I was a firm believer in this statement, however I've realized there're some flaws to the statement, the biggest one being death.

On Saturday I was informed of one of my relatives deaths via voicemail. I immediately started bawling because even though I wasn't necessarily on an extreme personal level with this person, we had attended the same grade school together, were around the same age, and obviously grew up around each other since we were related as well. This death nearly immediately sparked to my emotions because (guiltily every death that happens to someone my age affects me emotionally) but because this has seemed to happen to my family for awhile, and I just don't see why God would have this plan for people.

I understand that it is His choice of when the right time is to call someone back to Him, but at the same time I wonder if sometimes He doesn't want the person to be called back, but then gets upset by this (ie: suicide, accidents) and with a strong regard to accidents, I want to believe this badly. This is the third death for just that side of my family (my family tree is weird, I don't even understand it), and last year a different family, but one we were still related to, lost someone via the same thing: car accidents.

While I can sit here and say "don't drink and drive", "always buckle up" I'll tell you I'm not the first one to be an extreme advocate for those things, and I don't think anyone is, but everyone grows up and everyone goes through things that change them as a person. For this accident, however, it was different. Nobody is going to know how it happened (with the exception of bystanders, witnesses, of course) but the fact of the matter should be that people died. It shouldn't be "well, it's this persons fault, so it's not sad anymore, it's just sad they murdered those people," because if you think of it, it couldn't happen to anyone. The safest of people? Yeah, it could happen to you too. It could happen to any single person and until the day people realize that, just pray that nothing happens and the public decides to shame your family member for something that nobody is going to know what exactly happened or how traffic was to that person.

The fact of the matter is, is that God seems to call people back, if it is His calling via car accidents, at all the wrong times and typically to those who are the weakest. I've always accepted that death is inevitable, but it still phases (and I don't see how it doesn't phase everyone) when someone around my age, anyone for that matter, dies. I just want to know how many people believe that everything happens for a reason has exceptions, those being accidents? Or if it's something that the Good Lord does? And if it is, I can't wait until the day that I can ask why, because I don't understand why it would ever happen to a family, to young children losing their parents, to ANYONE losing ANY PERSON in their family. I just want to know why.

So I know this was basically just ranting of my choice to believe in a higher power, but honestly in a time of tragedy, it is something that people tend to lean toward regardless of their feelings prior. (Side note: I've always believed in a higher power. I respect you if you do not, but it is my own personal belief to believe in a higher power. I may not be strong towards the feeling of my certain religion, but I will always believe in a higher power.) Basically the moral of this is to question why this higher power would call back those people, or if there are exceptions to the rule. Also to advocate not only for safe drivers (I'm definitely not saying my relative was a terrible driver, because I know the story and they did nothing wrong) but just in general, and also that while others are in a time of tragedy, regardless of what/how it happened, just keep in mind that there's more than one person that lost someone in your life.

Be a courteous person. Especially to those who need it most.