Keep Your Tape Clean

To the individual that has called me a “slut” and other choice words,

    We used to be the best of friends. I take that back because I don’t remember that much of our friendship. I thought I did, but I really didn’t. All I remember was talking a lot more than I’d talk to any other person, and you being a genuine person that the world deserved more of than just the rare few. I understand that everyone changes throughout the course of life, even throughout the course of a year, but you, sir, have changed more than anyone ever thought you would.

    I am not going to say that I was the most perfect person in high school, or even in life in general, but everyone makes mistakes, and as you get older, you grow into maturity. You grow into your “big kid” job, and learn your life lessons from that and building a family of your own, so if you choose, along the way. The generation I was born into has kind of fucked this up, though. I graduated with around 50 people, and out of those people, eleven of us are still in school. I am not stating that college makes you a smarter or better person, but I’m stating this fact because everyone in my graduating class had the plan to pursue, and was enrolled in, college. The other 48 of those students I graduated with, dropped out of college, and don’t necessarily have jobs, but might have kids, be married, or both. That’s what I’m getting at when I’m saying that this generation is weird. It’s weird because we don’t have a path for our lives, but we’re going to add another little life into that screwed up life, making that little life feel the wrath of.

MOVING ON…

In high school, I had to buy Plan B for an individual because they weren’t old enough. They were sixteen, and would not tell me who it was for, but were really anxious about it. It turns out this person was fourteen, and had just turned fourteen not long before this incident. This person acted way too much like an adult, as this person was calling people names and claiming that they were the Virgin Mary a month prior.

If you flash forward a couple of years, you’d find out that this particular individual has a child from a spontaneous one night stand. This particular one night stand, happened to be someone that I had hooked up with in the past. Therefore, this particular individual that decided to call me a slut and choice names — you’ve technically slept with me.

It’s all about keeping your tape clean. I’ll be the first to admit, my tape definitely is not the cleanest as I was into ‘bad boys’ in high school to get revenge on my high school sweetheart, and was into frat boys in college. Keeping your tape clean is metaphoric for how many people you’ve slept with. If you put it into perspective:

Your partner has slept with 10 people before they slept with you, and you lost your virginity to them. Therefore, you’re sharing sexual juices with those 10 people, as well as ANYONE they’ve had sex with prior to your partners altercation with them.
    So say Sally loses her virginity to Sammy. Sammy had sex with Silvia, Samantha, and Sarah. Silvia had previously had sex with Sergio prior to Sammy, as well as Seth. Samantha and Sarah both had sex with Sean and Slade. THEREFORE, since Sally is having sex with Sammy and Sammy had sex with Silvia, Samantha, AND Sarah, and those three had sex with other people: Sally has shared sexual ‘juices’ with Sarah, Samantha, Silvia, Sergio, Sean, and Slade, instead of just the one person she thought she was having sex with.

While I do not like putting this into perspective (due to my own personal issues), it’s a realistic issue. Since I’ve “technically” shared sexual juices with this man, does that mean that he’s technically a slut and all those names as well? Because it should. It shouldn’t be something to judge people on, because people get judged every day, yes, but people should not get judged on things, only to find out that you’re CONNECTED to a person in a way that you cannot get rid of and you cannot take back. Putting this into a greater perspective, I would hope, puts teens in a position to realize what they’re doing when they’re younger actually has consequences. I didn’t think much as a teenager, but I sure hope that as a “semi-adult,” I can change some people’s lives from becoming the oblivion of bullying that some have plundered into



TL;DR
You shouldn’t judge a book by it’s cover until you know at least SOME of the story that is inside of it, because you could share more than just history with someone.